I think there is a fine line between caring and judging. You can care for this girl’s well being. That is all good and well because once you care, you can change things. But people often take another step and judge but the truth is, there are lots of explanations for this guy’s behavior: maybe he’s a pervert…or maybe he is just straight up crazy…or maybe it’s a publicity stunt…or maybe, just maybe, he really does loves her. Although most of us cannot understand how the last option could be and we ourselves would not do it, it is still a possibility. Just keep that in mind.

I think there is a fine line between caring and judging. You can care for this girl’s well being. That is all good and well because once you care, you can change things. But people often take another step and judge but the truth is, there are lots of explanations for this guy’s behavior: maybe he’s a pervert…or maybe he is just straight up crazy…or maybe it’s a publicity stunt…or maybe, just maybe, he really does loves her. Although most of us cannot understand how the last option could be and we ourselves would not do it, it is still a possibility. Just keep that in mind.

I know a lot of people on Facebook have said, and like you’ve mentioned, “It’s none of our business. Who cares?” And this bothers me.

Hey, I’m not saying they should get divorced. I’m not even intruding on their lives (It’s unlikely they will ever see this blog). But this is an issue, and I’m going to voice my opinion on it. Is my opinion going to stop it from happening ever again? No, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. This idea of “leaving it alone because it’s nobody’s business but theirs” is ridiculous–the “why do you even care?”

I care because I’m a journalist. I care because I’m American. I care because I’m a young woman. I care because I care.

To answer your question: Is age really just a number? … No. Age matters, at least to a certain extent…But it matters less as you get older (if that makes sense).

I think after a certain age, the concept of age might become more of a number than before. An example would be a 16 yr old girl and 25 yr old guy vs a 30 yr old woman and a 39 yr old guy. Although there is the same age difference, they aren’t quite the same. This is because at 16, the girl hasn’t experienced as much and hasn’t quite figured herself out yet.

I’m an “old soul” but at 16, I didn’t know who I was (though I thought I did at the time). A 16 yr old and a 25 yr old probably aren’t quite in the same place in their lives like a 30 yr old and 39 yr old are. So the age matters some, but really, I think what matters most is where you are in your life (the experiences you’ve gained and the path you want to head on) and your maturity. I doubt this is gonna be a good, healthy, happy marriage. But that’s just a prediction. Maybe they will be a freakshow couple and work perfectly great together. Who knows.

But I think people freak out too much. Yes, it’s quite disgusting but the truth is, she didn’t break any laws and her parents allowed it. Our duties as a society (to make people uphold out societal laws) don’t extend that much into their lives. It’s their parents’ duty to take care of her and they think it’s right. I would never let my child do that. And if it broke a law, I would support bringing him to justice so that her life isn’t permanently damaged. But none of these things are our business, really.

Equally, from a purely economic perspective, it doesn’t make sense – $100 is $100 dollars, but it does way more good to a guy earning $7 an hour than a guy earning $90 an hour, even though it’s the same amount of money. Letting one person have huge amounts of money is a tremendous waste as the excess doesn’t do him any good at all.